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Baring Your Soul

I’ve been tagged by the lovely Holly a little while ago, and thought why not take part? I don’t usually do the memes or tags people ask me to because there are too many, I’d spam you, and because a lot of them are either a little too off-topic or I can’t contribute properly.

It’s been a while since I’ve last done a post like this one. If you want to find out a little more about the writer behind the blog, keep reading! πŸ™‚ I’ll try to make it interesting ^^

One. What’s your biggest fear?

I’ve actually thought about this a lot recently. It always surprises me how quickly this year has gone by so far, or how quickly the past year has turned into 2016. I turned 26 this year and I was a little awed for a moment that I had made it this far. I was in a dark place ten years ago and don’t think I would have believed then where I am now. Then it occurred to me that I’ve moved here nearly eight years. Eight. Years! Ago.

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It’s made me realise that time passes impossibly fast, whether we want it to or not. I’m scared that suddenly I’ll be eighty, and I won’t have spend enough time with the people I love and too much time focusing on the wrong things. My relationship with someone I’m supposed to be closed to is more than a bit shaky, because they spend more time working than with family. I’m scared my priorities won’t be in the right place, and I won’t realise until it’s too late that I’ve been chasing the wrong goals my whole life – thinking that I was headed the right way.

Two. What’s your happiest memory?

I’m fortunate to have had many happy memories, but if I had to pick just the one I’d chose the day I moved in with my partner in April 2008. We’re both from different countries and met online, so I know first-hand how hard long distance relationships can be. It felt incredible and too good to be true to know that we didn’t have to take a plane to see each other any more, but could simply wake up next to each other and fall asleep next to each other. I moved to him and the flat was small but I loved the little space and have very fond memories.

Three. What’s your five year plan?

I never used to have five year plans! You can’t possible plan for everything, and while I’m organised I never organised my life to this extend. I do have a five year plan now, but it doesn’t involve much. Honestly, I’m reluctant to call it a plan.

I want to publish the Relics of Ar’Zac trilogy (starting with Rise of the Sparrows this May!) as well as a prequel, and I’ve just started writing a whole new book which I want to publish. Besides that, I might go back to university to study Visual Communications, but I’m still very much on the fence about that one.

See? It’s hardly a plan at all!

Four. What’s your favourite non-sexual intimate contact?

I love having the back of my neck, or my back, touched. But I don’t allow everyone to get anywhere near enough to manage that, so if you’ve touched the back of my neck at any point know that you’re very dear to me πŸ™‚

I also love a cuddle. I’ve always been a cuddly person and that I now have a partner and a cat to match is perfect!


Five. What’s your dream date? Money’s no issue.

I really want to go to Japan… *sigh* Maybe one day.

Six. What’s your song?

I don’t think I have a song, but the entire Mass Effect Soundtrack moves me and destroys me in equal measure.

Seven. What’s the most amazing thing someone’s said about you?

I’ve been thinking about this one for a few days now and am a little sad that I can’t think of anything. OH, I KNOW!

I went to the doctor’s once to have my blood taken and tested, and the nurse who did it told me I have REALLY nice veins!

Eight. If you could have any possible superpower, what would you choose?

I think I’ve mentioned this before somewhere, but if I could have any superpower I would want to be able to bring my characters to life. Anyone I write, anything, and I could turn it into reality! Imagine the possibilities!

Nine. What’s your guilty pleasure film?

Gawd, these questions are harder than I thought! Does Mean Girls count as a guilty pleasure film? I love Mean Girls and its quotable beauty! <3


Ten. What’s your best physical feature?

I’ve been told it’s my hands. It counts if it’s my Grandma who said it, right? Personally I’d choose my eyes. When I was in High School we went to France one year for a week, and this girl I shared a host family with told me my eyes were creepy and she couldn’t sleep πŸ˜€

Eleven. If you could be remembered for one personality trait, what would you want that to be?

I’d probably be remembered for my severe empathy since I cry at just about everything, but I’d rather be remembered for being determined and not giving up. I’ve been through a lot of shit in my life but I’ve kept going and now here I am, publishing a book in two months! (to all those bullies from High School – SCREW YOU! HAHAHAHA!)

Boy, two months sounds awfully soon.

Twelve. What are your non-writing/book related hobbies?

I’m a gamer at heart, so when I’m not writing/editing/plotting/reading I’m normally playing a game. Probably Mass Effect. I’m trying to move on but it’s hard.


Thirteen. What does an ideal night out look like to you?

This is going to sound strange to a lot of you, but I don’t do clubbing. An ideal night out to me would be a meal out either just with my partner or with friends, followed by the cinema. Both of us love movies (how awesome was Deadpool??) and have gone for dinner followed by a movie (followed by a panicky cat who thought we forgot her feeding time) many times.

Fourteen. What’s the biggest risk you ever took? Did it pay off?

I don’t see this as a risk myself, because at the same it was the only logical thing for me to do and there weren’t really any other options as far as I was concerned, but I’ve been told so many times how brave I was for taking such a risk that I think it probably qualifies.

As I mentioned above my partner and I were in a long-distance relationship for a while after having met online in a chat room. We did meet in person before I moved in with him – I’m not stupid πŸ˜› My mind was pretty much made up that I wanted to move and go to college here in England, so when I was 18 I quit school (it was very satisfying), packed a suitcase and moved over here. After some very impressive convincing tactics, I should add. I had a pro- and cons list to present to my parents, and everything! Very well prepared ^^

Because I was tagged a while ago and everyone who wants to do this will already have done it, I won’t tag anyone. If you haven’t done this yet but would like to please go ahead – consider yourself tagged πŸ™‚


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  1. What great answers! I completely understand the big risk as I did about the same with mine. I knew my husband was the one, so it didn’t even cross my mind that it might be mad moving here. Sometimes you just know πŸ™‚ I’m not much of a gamer but Mass Effect is an amazing game!

    Thanks for joining in πŸ˜€

    • It was the same for us – we just knew, so it was an adventure more than a risk πŸ™‚

      You’re welcome! Thank you for tagging me, it was a nice one to do πŸ™‚

  2. Such a big adventure you went on! Duly impressed. I’d never really considered a boyfriend when I was 18 (all girls boarding school) and my parents would never have let me do something like that, I’m so glad it worked out for you! And thanks for sharing, just found your blog and this was the first post, so feel like I’ve got to know you a bit lol. I never get around to doing tags ! Must try one day…

    • It didn’t really feel like it at the time, it was just the right thing for me to do! It was an adventure but it didn’t feel scary. It’s definitely worked out, I think after over eight years I can be confident that he is who he said he is πŸ™‚
      That was lucky, haha! I haven’t done a post like this in a while but have been tagged in several things, so I thought I’d do this one πŸ™‚ I like reading them when other writes do them. I don’t get around to doing all of them, either πŸ™‚
      Thanks for popping by! πŸ™‚

  3. I did the same with mine too. πŸ˜€ I met my SO online and we spent a lot of time talking to one another. Then I decided to move far from my hometown to live with him. I really want to got to Japan too. I’m a gamer too. πŸ™‚ Bringing your characters to life would be neat.

    • It’s funny how often it happens and works out, given how severely I was warned about meeting people online! We’re the lucky ones πŸ˜›
      I need to go to Japan, they have cat caffes. I know there’s one in London but it’s not the same.
      I don’t think I knew you were a gamer! What’s your favourite game – or is that too difficult a question? πŸ™‚

      • Japan has a lot of neat and weird things to see and do. There are a lot of games I like and its too hard to choose a favorite. Some of my top favorites are Uncharted, The Last of Us, Resident Evil, Deal Space, and Final Fantasy. I actually met my SO on Uncharted 2. So we first played and talked to one another then we chatted privately as well. We got to know one another very well and had so much in common. I can see how it’s scary to meet people online but not everyone on the internet is out to get you. Its a way for introverts to meet people like themselves. You’re probably not going to find them at a club or other social events, unless it’s like comic con or similar.

        • We were really tempted by The Last of Us but we don’t have a Playstation so we didn’t get to play it.
          No, haha, I definitely wouldn’t have found anyone at a club. I go too rarely and they’re not really my people ^^ It’s sweet that you and your SO found each other gaming. Such a lovely story!

          • Thank you! πŸ™‚ Clubs are not for me either. I have never been to one but I know I would hate it. The Last of Us is a really great game and I highly recommend it but its a shame you don’t have a PlayStation. They have a lot of really great exclusive titles.

  4. Great answers to this πŸ™‚ Bringing your characters to life would such an amazing superpower…as long as you could put back the ones who would cause destruction and mayhem…could make life even more interesting. Cinema and meals out are great ways to enjoy a date (Deadpool was amazing) and is a thing my wife and I enjoy doing πŸ™‚
    Glad to hear your risk worked out πŸ™‚
    I like to game too but usually Lego games and Dead Rising…but managed to save that in a place that I had no chance of surviving.

    • Of course, that would have to be part of it to balance things out. Unless I was to lose my power for some reason? Maybe one of my evil characters would take it from me, to stop me from sending them back.
      It’s definitely my favourite way to spend a night out. Neither of us party hard so it works really well ^^ We have so many great take-aways nearby because we love close to two universities. We get all of the food! And then there’s our favourite restaurant nearby, too.
      I’ve managed that before. It just makes the game impossibly impossible.

      • Ooh you could bring mayhem to the world. Just let you know if you need any help in saving the world :p
        What is your favourite take away food? I use to live sandwiched between two Indians and two Thai shops. It was so tempting each night!

        • I love Pizza Hut (Double Pepperoni) but we have this really good Chinese place nearby… More recently this Japanese place started delivering and they taste so much like Wagamama it’s insane.

  5. How wonderful πŸ™‚ I love getting the chance to know you better!
    That’s a very relatable fear. I feel the same way. I’m also turning 26 this year and I sometimes wonder where all the time has gone. I worry that I’ve squandered my time so far and I’m worried I’ll never get a chance to accomplish everything I want to do. I guess we just have to do our best to work hard towards the goals we have now and adapt as we learn through life. We get stronger through experience. That’s life. We just have to accept it πŸ™‚
    Considering the journey you made – what an adventure that must have been – it seems that you’re well set towards achieving a lot. Keep up that courage; keep following your heart.
    You have a beautiful talent to share with the world <3

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